Should be discreet and masculine. Does she want more cum. Maybe have Korean girl looking japanese friend little fun.
Must have web cam.
Visual associations to learn the Korean alphabet in record time! Not only does it help with your listening abilities, but it makes you sound more like a Korean local. Not bad for only learning a few phrases and words! Pick your favorites, make sure you understand the meaning, and try them out with your Korean friends. Like lots of Korean slang and indeed Korean words in general , these words come from taking the first parts of two other words.
Can you guess which words they are made up of? That should save you some typing time on KakaoTalk when you ask somebody if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. However, in this case the words do not literally mean pushing and pulling as in a tug of war or a door. This phrase refers to someone who is a master or something, and their level is so good it is like they have achieved the maximum level in a game!
This word is just the opposite of the previous! Not good at tennis and want to let your partner know before the match starts? So when you put them together, you get the picture of someone who is laughing explosively! Ever have a mental breakdown? In Korean, this is more often used to express yourself when your mental status is on the fritz! This exclamation is usually used after something shocking or surprising is said or seen. When you are typing fast, you can easily input characters in the wrong order, and this internet slang rose out of this common misspelling!
However, it still retains the same meaning! You know those animated GIFs floating around the internet? However, it is now used in Korean to describe a person who has an obsessive interest in almost anything — celebrities, studying, movies, characters — you name it! It has a slightly negative connotation so be careful how you use it!
Just say this word and it reflects their insult back to them like a mirror! It is a slightly childish and cheesy term. For example, you can use this phrase to say you are not amazing at something, but you did average or as much as reasonably can be expected!
Everyone has that friend. You can say this when something looks stupid but funny. K-pop and Korean pop culture have really taken off around the world in recent years, and this term is used to describe the dancing aspect of performances.
Use it to really emphasize how awesome something is! Ever see Star Wars? This is a person who is just filled up to the brink with love the romantic kind or not! These terms have negative connotations so use them sparingly! Speaking of Facebook, everyone needs a profile picture for their favorite social media page! Want to describe a girl in a similar way? While the previous referred to a handsome and kind guy, this one will emphasize the intelligence aspect!
You can say this at the end of a date if you want to impress your companion. You could also use it at a bar with your friends. Although what each particular stage of the night consists of will depend on the particular people who are out that night. You can just say it on its own, without putting it into a sentence. It is also sometimes used in order to make other slang words. This word can be used to describe someone with a great body, like a guy who is quite fit and muscular or a girl who has a great figure!
This phrase can be used to describe fashion, food, appearance, architecture, or even a skillful football move. It is used to describe something that is terrible, such as a piece of work that you have really messed up.
It can also be used to describe a really really ugly person. This is basically a cocktail of whatever random alcohol your friend managed to find and mix together. It is often a mix of beer, soju, whisky, maybe some vodka, and some other things.
This is a person who has no friends and is bullied by everybody at school. They have to sit on their own because nobody wants to sit near them or be associated with them in any way at all. It usually has negative connotations, and you should only use it with really close friends who have a good sense of humor.
In fact, in general you should remember that the Korean language is very hierarchical and you can only really use Korean slang with close friends. This is when somebody is acting like a spoiled little princess and constantly seeking attention and wanting their partner to buy them things. As this words come from hanja Korean based on Chinese Characters , it has a similar sounding equivalent in Cantonese.
This can be used to suggest that two people look or act the same. It comes from the name of the bean paste filled pastries that resemble fish that you can buy from roadside stalls in winter. The pastries are made using a press so they always look the same and are also the same on both sides, which is where this expression comes from.
Two of the most popular alcoholic drinks in Korea are you guessed it — soju and beer! What do you get when you mix the two in your glass? This word is used to describe chatting with the eyes and not speaking, or reading posts or forum threads and not leaving a comment or a trace of you being there! Hopefully you enjoyed this article on Korean slang.
Of course there are many other slang words and expressions out there. What are the best slang words that you have come across whilst learning Korean? Let us know in the comments below!
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They don't really care if we're just lying or being full of it. They just want the experience UNTIL they're tired of it and want to try the new, latest, "shin-hatsu-bai" romantic experience.
So guys who are worried that they're going to be "found out" for lying Does that reduce foreign men to the role of boy-toy? We're not really marriage material in the eyes of the Japanese. Just a fun exotic fling. Even though it's somewhat demeaning, I could live with that for a while.
Next, I would like to see an article about what the Japanese women give back in return. Sounds to me that certain people only take, take, take. I had a friend Japanese in this case who was chased by at least one Japanese woman, wanted to be taken to expensive restaurants, and basically wanted to live comfortably while future-hubby works his arse off and she can have tea with female friends - that type.
I've seen other similar women from other parts of Asia too. And it's usually with very old men. Just to balance things - I've seen plenty of Asian women who want to work and fend for themselves too. It's not about being a foreigner or any of those things on the list. They surely contribute but it's more about respect and honoring your committment day in and day out. That goes for both parties. Yeah, It's just you. You seem to assume a lot about the lives of people based on little snippets and grabs you get from the electronic internet.
You know nothing of the people in the artice, yet call them fake, insecure, dishonest, dumb et al. You know nothing of me, and yet you call me all manner of things. So, are you just here to fire off insults and make prefunctory assessments of everything you see? Because that's all pretty lightweight in my opinion and I'm more than happy to take you to task on it.
Yeah, it obviously is. Because every time I re-read what you said, it still comes across the same way. I don't see how you've taken what I said as a personal attack or whatever.
But, I'll apologize if that's the case. However, if all you've promised is to " do that thang", it's a little easier to manage the commitment! It's essentially a man trying to "own" his own women, and you CAN'T own anybody, much less tell them who not to hook up with. Anyway, if you go down that track, you should completely expect women to expect payment for life including a huge expensive rock , and expect you to work for them your entire life because you are "in love".
The last I heard, marriage was an agreement between 2 people. It's not about someone "owning" someone else; and if it was, that was called "slavery" and I don't think many slaves got "a huge expensive rock" and their "master" working for them their entire lives.
I knew a Japanese guy who did the flowers and presents like the gaijin here, but was kinda I have to admit that it's a pretty clever trick that Japanese women play.
Japan might be a man's world, where men have the money and power Do men REALLY think that by getting married that they'd have their own woman who would always love him and have sex with them? After marriage, where did the sex go? Did they even consider that the only reason the woman is getting married is so she can have her own nest slave, while she goes off and does her own thing with his money? If I were to attempt even one or two things on this list, the first word out of the BF's mouth would be "uzai!
Looks like I am doing everything right and my much older beautfull japanese girl friend loves me If I took so much as a cup of coffee within ten yards of our bedroom I'd get a kick in the crotch. That would explain the herbivore-man cum freeter lifestyle.
I suspect they're all revolting against the system of enslavement that having their own "darling" Japanese women would otherwise push them into. I think it's called "being considerate", but OK I'll humour you. Let's view his act from a possessive viewpoint of "what are we? From a non-possessive point of view you'd just go out, have fun, not try to control "own" each other, have lots of sex and have lots of babies in a totally adult, trust-based relationship.
I think most women back in my country would appreciate the above. For my wife, simply saying I love you is enough. But only 1 in 10 Do it! Probably about the same odds you'd have with Japanese guys. Men and Women are the same everywhere. Yasukuni - spot on. I'd like to add my name to the petition for an article following this up, which could give us poor saps who wound up marrying a J-woman precisely some idea what makes them metamorphosise from such easily-impressed sirens into unceasingly-complaining harridans once the ring goes on the finger.
Trying to make and keep a woman happy is one of the most futile pursuits ever foisted on mankind. If a grown woman or man for that matter is not happy, it is their own problem. It is their responsibility to make themselves happy and not rely on another to make it happen. I am not sure if this list is really the difference between foreign and Japanese men or romantics and non-romantics. I have dated guys from a few countries and have had mixed experiences because gasp all men are different.
My husband,always says he loves me, ends his text messages with "I love you" along with other cute phrases you are the apple of my eyes and kisses me as many times a day I can wish for.
He always mentions it is our anniversery day the 14th of every month even when I forget. He often tries to do something nice that day even if it just something small For me, he is the perfect level of romantic. Oh, did I mention Japanese women may not know what they are missing out on if they buy into the stereotype that foreign men are the best. Well, I guess my advice is have fun with but don't marry the ones who fall simply for these superficialities.
In the end, if the girl does not love you for who you are, no amount of these things will ever be enough once you are married. There is nothing wrong with being a gentleman, but if two people truly love each other, many of these things can remain unsaid. They are simply understood. Sorry to get all sappy today. Married and bored or single and lonely. Ain't no happiness anywhere and definitely without those top ten bucket puckers. I believe that the "unhappy" thing is just a ploy for attention, to get your sympathy, and to working hard to be the sole cause of their happiness Nothing turns off a grown man more than some attention-whoring crybaby Actually after I looked at the list properly we use 2 of them.
And they ain't any of the corny ones. There are a lot of extremely bitter people on this site. People will argue over anything won't they? I look like a bear and my beautiful Japanese wife fell head over heels for me because she could be herself. She didn't need to play a role or act. She could just be herself. I think for every Japanese girl that are into the foreigner fantasy there are 10 J-girls that aren't. They are totally down with J-guys being shy, feminine, or whatever Westerners think is odd.
I think the list is nice and all you bitter people who love to drag others down with you can keep being salty. My life is in no way perfect but if you think Japanese women are at fault for your unhappiness perhaps your selection process needs some tweaking. Thats not quite true. But happiness comes from within yourself. The problem comes when people hope happiness is in material goods or other people.
Instead of complaining so much or blaming it on the woman, why don't you change your life? I mean, you criticize Japanese guys for being passive, but you seem pretty passive to me. No one is holding a gun to your head to keep you in these relationships. Although judging by some of the comments about women in general, it might be difficult to find a woman of any nationality that would have you! Seems you've got some baggage, my friend, and I'm sorry for it. I agree that a lot of the these top ten things are cheesy, but to say everyone is being fake if they do it is a bit much.
A lot of it is genuine, at least at first, and probably even in your case with your ex. After a while it wears off and the person MAY continue to utter words of love just to keep things going, if they don't stop altogether. As to the article itself, I'm curious as to how long these couples have been married. I only say that because I know that for a lot of Japanese men as well who date and marry foreign spouses it starts out very much like some of the women quoted in the article talk about -- being swept off their feet, wood and romanced like many Japanese counterparts would not, etc.
Hopefully they don't, but I've known more than a few Japanese women who have dated foreign men and then after a while get sick of all the lovey-dovey stuff.
And lest we forget, while it is a sad fact, it's still a fact that most international marriages end in divorce. I hope all the ladies quoted and their male partners live 'happily ever after' to add to the cheesiness!
I don't think you get it. A revolving door sex-friend policy is actually desirable to a lot of men, despite the caveats. Yeah, a bunch of women gushing about how great their gaijin partner is. Or rather, how great their gaijin partner is trying to look. Nah, I knew I was being fake with her. I feel bad about that, but she was fake with me too. So, I call that a draw. And yeah, maybe some of it is genuine. I'd say the "Makeup Flowers" bit was true.
But, not because someone is trying to be romantic. But, because it works with women. But I'm better they won't. Try telling your wife that you love her after you've been married a few years. She'll laugh at you and ask you what you've done. If you think that this list is great and a textbook to live your lovelife by, then great, go for it.
I just think it's silly, and the stuff done in it is done by people who want to make themselves look good to their fairytale-viewing partner. Now, let me get back to listening to This Mortal Coil's "It'll end in tears" album, while eating microwaved french toast with maple syrup and bacon, and crying.
And I don't have to resort to pulling on the rubber mask of fairytale-gaijin-white-knight-mr. I don't have to send her e-mail or leave messages with platitudes; or tell her I love her on the phone when I'll be seeing her in about 5 hours or something; or whatever other silly things people like to dream up.
Do I tell her I love her? I don't need to because my conduct lets her know I love her. Anyway, enough talk about me and my little pumpkin In your experience, clearly, but not for everyone.
I tell my wife all the time, and though it's slightly more automatic than it used to be inspired, it's still true. No, dude, I think this list is just a crap feature out to score hits, so to speak.
And as with everything else in life, I think the people quoted in the article are exceptions -- not necessarily to the norm, but it still doesn't include the fact that the exact same 'pointers' have the opposite effect in many situations. I also think it's cheesy as hell. My point in commenting at all on this fluff was just to say that I don't think you can apply your personal experience and as such somewhat subjective observations on everyone. Again, there are exceptions, and some people are very happy and genuine with their partners.
And do you you consider this to be pathetic, or fake, or signs of insecurity or whatever, which are the only possible explanations some people here seem able to attribute such behaviour to?
Here is what strikes me about the bitterness I see in many of the guys I have seen get burnt by Japanese women, and I stress that it is only based on my observations of what I have personally witnessed.
I have seen quite a few guys, some rather inexperienced with women, get bowled over by an attractive, artful Japanese girl who batted the eyelids and laughed at their jokes, gave them some action, and the boys fell hook line and sinker. They didn't spend the time to get to know the girl, they rushed in as quick as they could and were married or had her knocked up quicker than you could cough. Because they hadn't spent the time getting to know their spouse properly they hadn't got to know everything about her until it was too late.
Turns out they had married a selfish banshee who was the antipathy of their sweet, demure girlfriend. It's a schoolboy error. And I'm sorry, but they were solely to blame. Because not everything that glitters is gold. Doesn't matter how hot she is, take your time. If she is really into you, she will be patient, and if she is really as good as you think she is, time will help you tell.
Nothing wrong with some cheesey moves as long as you are deliberately being cheesey for humour or wotever, but when people start trying to pretend that these moves are genuine If you base your relationship on nationality and "exoticism", it will eventually fail. Remember dating my wife back in the day but her being Japanese was never the reason I liked her. Foreigners are no more romantic than Japanese - no way can you simplify the world like that.
That being said, I believe the attention some guys from abroad know how to give is a turn on. At least in the beginning. I too did almost all of those things in the beginning, that was until my, then girlfriend now wife, got sick of it.
A japanese girl might like those kind of things, but she'll only keep liking em if you are "perfect" in all the other aspects to. I understand most japanese men who are always drinking with their bosses and work hrs overtime each month. The only reason a gaijin does the above mentioned things in his home country is because he can almost always expect his counterpart to respond to them with compassion and love..
Japanese girls most japanese girls, not all sees marriage as a bussines, and instead of keeping their man happy and content they'll manipulate and threat. My double minor penalties are an expression of the love the 2 of us have; and I backcheck for kisses. When I drop the gloves, my wedding ring sparkles in the florescent lights, it's beautiful I think my husband is sincere and secure so he is able to be a bit of a romantic.
We acknowledge the cheesiness of it at times and have a good laugh about it. However, we are comfortable in how we act towards each other. We show our affection honestly and that makes us both happily married.
Maybe it is just because we have only been together for 3 years or maybe it is because we both take the time to consider our feelings for each other. Now, we are thinking of having kids which would change the dynamic, I am sure. But I hope that he still kisses my forhead before bed everynight our cheesiest of all cheesy rituals and I can still call him my kuma bear. Thats all it takes for girls who will actually marry a foreigner to begin with.
Any guy who they think will get them out of here can skip all but 1. And 1 isnt a way to make a girl fall head over heels unless you are proposing to someone you just met. Stupid list of fake things guys say or do to get laid. The only downside to the rotating sex-friend model is that inevitably a lot but not all of the women use you for sex and then tire of you. In addition to being covered with lies and nonsense, you're stuck with one at a time, and then you're an emotional wreck when they're done with you.
Perhaps they drained your wallet too. Anyway, I still love Japanese girls. When they're done with you they just don't call up and book you for bootycalls, as opposed to fight an argue with you. Again, that's the stupidity of an article like this, and worse are the posters who take it as some kind of gospel. I'm not saying that's you at all, but there ARE people who would eat up this drivel and try to use it even. As to your comment, it goes both ways.
Before getting married I dated numerous Japanese women and the majority of them wanted me to say "I love you" after the first date. One was furious when I wouldn't call her my girlfriend after our second date, when I barely knew her but was trying to get to know her. In fact, try explaining the difference to a Japanese person between "dating" and "being a couple" and they simply can't fathom it.
It's also a cultural thing. How do you get to properly know your partner fully in a culture that doesn't generally 'allow' people to live together before marriage? Yeah, some guys do indeed fall head over heels for the cute J-girl batting her eyes, as you say, but my point is that it goes both ways, and again that's why nobody should take this kind of article seriously.
There are exceptions to everything. I realize you're being sarcastic, which undermines your comment, but truth be told your idea of a 'romantic night out' might not necessarily be wrong; just depends on how passive the female is vs. Stop saying everyone and everything is fake based on your experiences. You cannot possibly know how others feel, simply because you are you and other people are other people. Is your love of hockey fake? I think it is If you met your J spouse outside Japan you wouldn't need to go overboard in wooing her.
You can generally be yourselves without worrying like many do in Japan. Bit of experience in the matter? Who says these people are going out of their way to woo anyone?
I think any person who is not him or herself in any situation is rather sad -- especially those that try and pinpoint eikaiwa teachers as an example; smacks of extreme insecurity. It really is like something from a movie scene.
He probably saw the movie 15 times, and practiced that line a lot. Yes, all the doofuses who have been totally rejected in the USA and elsewhere can come here and get married. In other countries, they see you, the doofus alarm goes off, and people run away as fast as they can, but in Japan, you will seem shy, cute, romantic, and charming.
Cross-culturally, you won't seem nerdy at all, and none of that focussed oddness that has been scaring people away will be noticed. People will fall for this cheesiness anywhere -- it's not a Japan-specific trait.
People want to be wanted -- it's human nature -- and to assume no one anywhere else would go for attempts at romance cheesy as they are is simply stupid. You're probably a fan of the 'Charisma Guy' comic strip. There are truths to what you say, but it's also a pretty blanket generalization. I still don't think anyone in their right mind would act like that way though. No, it's true love. I'll try and get my wife to tape my blade.
Toe to heel, and waxed! Although if she does it from heel to toe, she'll have to buy me "Makeup Flowers". Yeah, you can say anything and it sounds romantic in French. She'll get sick of it after his 5th affair. And no need for extreme insecurity because I'm happy for the most part,but your reaction would indicate that insecurity you mentioned.
Not knocking anyone's hustle in the search for love. I'm not angry, and it is, of course, a blanket generalization. I don't mean to imply that everyone who came here and got married was a nerd, but look around, and you will see quite a few couples where the husband or boyfriend is decidedly odd, and the wife or girlfriend hasn't realized it yet at all.
Are you making these ridiculous comments just to feel better about yourselves? I hope it is working. These comments serve no other purpose. It's your comment that smacked of insecurity, because you I mean people in general cannot seem to comment objectively on this thread. Doesn't matter if it's 20 years and I've been here nearly as long or 2, your opinion does not fit society as a whole -- it's a subjective generalization. Therein lies the rub: Last time I went home I saw a bunch of 'odd' couples walking around holding hands and what not.
For flings or short relationships, yeah, maybe there are more 'nerds' with hot J-ladies, but when it comes to marriage it's hard to say. You put on that equipment to impress others.
I know because I once faked putting on the equipment and playing the game. There is a certain sadness in the way that some men will read the above tips and immediately dismiss their own behaviour under the guise of honesty and worldliness. With a roll of the eyes and a somewhat smarmy attitude, they will derisively comment on the foolishness of those who actually believe romance is anything other than a way to get into a woman's pants.
Women are perfectly capable of telling sincerity apart from deception at least, as well as any other person blinded by love. Nor are women deceiving themselves into mistaking romance for true love. Romance isn't an emotion. It is an art. It is a dance. It is the flattering and embarrassing reminder to the receiver that they have the power to make someone act like a fool in love. Like any other art form, it has its time and place, but again, like any other art form there is no reason why it must be formally practiced at all times; one does not need a ballroom and a fancy gown to enjoy a sudden two-step in celebration of a successful business negotiation.
If you are not the romantic type, more power to you. If you are the type that genuinely does not understand the appeal of romance, try considering the appeal of any shared emotion, be it the thrill of competition, victory, or simply the quiet satisfaction of the company of a friend, and frame it into the context of a relationship.
If you are the kind that actively derides romance in its various forms and has difficulty in seeing anything beyond nefarious purposes A real proposal Yeah, I did the same thing. I was being fake then. I learned not to do it the second time. If you where being fake then why even bother proposing.
You where only cheating the one you where proposing to and yourself. I guess thats why you learnt second time around. No its called using your imagination and spicing things up a little and having some fun. My wife and l still after 14 years of marriage send flattering text messages and write funny cute things in them.
Its called having a laugh and a bit of fun and after 14 years l can still say my marriage is fun. Can you say the same? I remember my wife and l had a silly fight one day and she felt so bad she sent me a bunch of flowers at work.
While it was embarrassing it was also one of the sweetest things ever. Its was hilarious to have the women l work with making comments about how lucky l was to have such a great wife. You sad sad little man. Maybe he is saying it because he feels it and wants his partner to hear it. There is nothing wrong with saying it as long as you mean it and also show it. No some people are just secure in their relationships and like to show affection for each other. LOL well arnt we just the uptight type.
Nothing wrong with pet names. We still do that after all these years. You get out of a relationship what you put in. You put no effort in and its a waste of time, you make an effort make it fun even if others see it as childish and you have a good relationship. As l said l have been married 14 years, been together 19 years and are still l can safely say l love my wife more and more each day. We dont need to tell each other we love each other but we do, we dont need to do all the "silly" little things but we do and its not fake its genuine and it makes a big difference in a relationship.
Maybe you should give it a go instead of scoffing at it. Just wondering, and this is a serious question that I mean absolutely no offence by asking btw, but how is it that so many people here appear to have been conned into getting married with a Japanese person? How did this happen? Have they really changed that much since you married them? Some examples perhaps, if it's not too personal? I got married last year and my wife is Japanese. But in reading what a lot of other foreigners have written, most of whom's relationships have apparently gone to hell, I'd like to be prepared for any potential 'surprises'.
And in regards to the article, yes, I can agree with a lot of that. I was never fake about it, and my wife does let me know how much she appreciates the little things we as foreigners seem to take for granted.
No, seriously, don't take this article, or the posts, as any guideline for your own relationship and happiness. No J-lady is the same, the same as no other woman in the world is the same based on nationality. Some relationships go to hell, regardless of nationality. You've come onto a thread that is based on foreigners with J-ladies, so naturally you're going to see a lot of comments both ways on the matter, but it needn't apply to you necessarily.
Don't spend your time anticipating 'surprises', spend it doing what makes you and hopefully your better half happy and don't ask questions. I understand what you are saying and I know exactly what kind of article it is.
I just get tired of bitter foreign guys who call the girls dumb and stupid and gullible when they fail to realize that they get played just as well, if not better by the girls. I met lots of Japanese girls who may not have been the most worldly of people, but they sure as hell weren't dumb and many of them were absolute virtuosos when it came to playing a man. And I think Japanese women are very pragmatic when it comes to marriage, so some of those interested in foreign men, or cute halfu babies met plenty of these , or living in a foreign country have no qualms in choosing a slightly nerdy guy if it means they get what they are after.
Farm Boy says this:. But in many cases, I don't actually believe this to be true. I think many of the Japanese women are perfectly aware of who and what they are hooking up with - it's just that they make pragmatic decisions as a means to an end.
My wife was telling me the other day that her best Japanese friend here in Perth basically admitted this very thing to her. She married a nerdy, geeky guy here in Australia because it provided her with what she wanted. They have had a child, he has a great job and provides well for them all but she does not find him attractive, thinks him a geek, they fight non stop and she watches a quick bit of porn to get in the mood whilst he has a shower before the show starts.
I'm not making this up. But she knew exactly what she was doing and who she was marrying long before the ring slipped onto the finger.
In your case, you obviously took your time and waited until you met the right person, and that's what I'm advocating here. I've been with my wife for 10 years and she is just one of the best people I could ever have imagined meeting, let alone marrying.
A quality human being. I'm a lucky man. Japanese women really want to get married to the best guy they can get, so they pull out all stops to show that they are great cooks, gentle, sexy etc etc. The goal for many is marriage. You'll notice how a proposal line for many japanese man is that they will make the woman happy.
So it seems to me that for most the deal is that the woman shows herself to be worth marrying - but then from there after it's the man's job to make her happy, and the family happy, and for many the main way he does that is by bringing in the money. That's his main responsibility. When I first heard about men losing their jobs but not telling their wives I thought they were absolutely proud and arrogant and that of course their wives would want to know what happened and comfort them and encourage them etc.
But the reality for many NOT ALL so don't attack me is that a man losing his job and not being able to find another one with the same income changes the ball game completely. Unfortunately, many foreign men were raised in a completely different culture and naively assumed that a Japanese woman who wanted to marry them wanted to live like a foreign couple. Well some of them like the foreign romance style, but once their married with kids, they revert to the expectations that were raised with.
Plus the fact that a lot of girls were brought up in the bubble era and expect to live like princesses, forgetting that things have changed. So, a total difference in expectations. Which is why it's probably good to have quite a few deep and meaningful conversations about money, children's education and lifestyle and not just fine dining, flowers, songs and sex.
Copy it and google it to see how original it is. Wow, there are some very, very, very bitter people in the comments section here. Believe it or not, there are guys there who don't mind doing these kinds of things and in fact, even enjoy doing them. I used to be one of those "this is so cheesy" types. Until I met a woman I fell hard for. Over a year into our relationship, I'm still doing these things -- and she returns the favor as well. And it's not something I'm "trying" to do -- it just comes naturally.
And some of these "watch how J-girls will turn into vicious money-grubbers once you slip the ring on" people -- stereotypical much? Wasn't there a similar article on JT sometime ago? Just face it people, non-Japanese are not necessarily great lovers, they are good at talking sincerely. That means every man who is not Japanese is romantic and Japanese men are the only unromantic people on Earth.
If Japanese men are really as the article says they are, maybe there is a healthy pool of Japanese women who are shy, unromantic and asexual who hate foreign languages and are disinterested in foreign cultures. Or those with romantic tendencies who are ultimately pragmatic: Joking aside, it just might be possible that most Japanese women like their countrymen the way they are, whatever that is. All I'm saying is that people like you own up to it instead of dance around the issue, pretending as if that's not what you really want.
Men aren't stupid either, and I don't buy it. Lighten up people, every one has their own style and some of us are more mushy than others, if it is not you or doesn't work for you that's OK. And although the article specifically mentions J-girls as I can attest there are women in every country that find foreign men interesting and men that find foreign women interesting too. I'm not the one being an internet toughguy. Someone has a different opinion to you so they must be a sad little man.
Were you bullied as a kid? It obviously works if you've been together 19 years. I just know it won't work for me and my wife. Also, my wife doesn't speak a word of English and Japanese pet names are even more annoying.
The whole "silly" little things just wouldn't work with us. It works for you, obviously, so all the power to you. Not necessarily run away, but that should raise a big, glow-in-the-dark, red flag.
Once they start talking about you like a posession, things can get scary. I do call my missus "my precious moonbeam" because Arthur said it when pissed in one epsiode of the old British social documentary On the Buses. Probie Wow 13 of the first posts from you and so much feels negative. But I applaud you for you happy marriage. Unlike the other responses to your posts I do not wish to argue after all every one is entitled to their opinion.
But every one has their own style when it comes to attracting a woman. And women have different attitudes about what they like from a man. During my widowhood I dated a lady who absolutely despised foreigners funny she was only second generation in the U. I came here to honor my late wife's memory in her "homeland" although she was 4th generation U. But I went and fell in love with my landlady and here I am married to a beautiful foreign woman who adores my romantic mushiness apparently a behavior that is very hard to find in the men here, not that they are bad men, just not very romantic, I've only found two places in this city of , that sell romantic cards.
I am happy that you and your wife are happy in your style of love, please be happy that the other of us are happy in our style of love. Foreigners fawning over their J-wives, how low can you go. I've been married to one for12 years and I never say anything remotely debasing such as the head-wagging comments in the article.
Treat'em mean, keep'em keen. Not saying anything violent but less is more in the wife-fawning dept. Besides, after the first few years she told me "We've been married long enough so I'm no longer doing, this, this or this. I'll let your imaginations do the walking.
We've been sleeping in separate bedrooms since then. She's happy as long as the dough rolls in. For as many couples as there are out there, there are also just as many "perfect" formulas for getting and keeping the love of your life. I tend to avoid telling anyone they're doing things "wrong" because for them, it may be what works best. All it says is that these are 10 different ways that worked for the particular 10 women they interviewed.
Wait, so she was a foreigner dating a foreigner or was she a native dating a foreigner or a foreigner dating a native or a native dating a native who hated the foreigner and also hated the native?
DentShop She was second generation in the U. It was her attitude that the U. Save my money by going to Glendale, LOL. California has to be ten time more expensive to live in that Yerevan, plus I wouldn't have gotten to see Mt. Ararat, Karahunj the Armenian Stonehenge and many structures that are more than 1, years old. I am assuming that many foreigners there in Japan have the same thoughts about what they have seen there.
It read "Pronoun adverb verb adjective pronoun. No white guy, however dumb or ugly he is, should need this guide for most Japanese girls, getting a white guy is a status symbol of walking around Tokyo. If you skip tourists, the only white people you see are fat, balding, ugly white dudes with sexy Japanese girls. The only thing you need is money and this was not on the list. Same goes if you're Japanese. The Japanese women would rather have money more than flowers anyday. In fact, being single, 38, and with a fairly decent income, I navigate the sincere vs.
As previously mentioned, women aren't idiots. Those who didn't figure it out by age 12 had their mothers or friends informing them about what most men are really after whether the men themselves knew it or not. I would submit that the primary reason for this is complacency: The idea that a marriage is the final step in a relationship. At its core, marriage is really not much more than a business contract. Getting to yes, regardless of the nature of the proposal, is only the beginning.
If one does not follow through and ensure the contract is maintained, there is every chance that it will fail. No, the true pleasure of a relationship is not to be found in the legal or pragmatic environment created by marriage. Romance is an art. Like many arts, it is also a means to happiness through creation. In the case of romance, it is the creation and maintenance of an interpersonal relationship, one which is in constant flux and endlessly interesting.
Romance is the key to continued interest and, by way of interest, passion. You need to revise your reading list. The weird thing is that while I'm married to a Japanese woman. So, how strange am I?! Actually, I don't often see fat, balding, ugly white dudes with sexy Japanese girls at all. Where do you hang out? They're probably just normal guys who wear wigs, don't go to the gym, and the sexy Japanese girls are probably just at a normal weight for Japan. Cabadaje - spoken like a single male. It's so easy to know everything about romance and passion when you "navigate the sincere vs.
What if Japanese women have a child with a foreigner in Japan and gets divorced? In a recent years, Japan is experiencing a dramatic increase in the number of international marriages between a Japanese and a non-Japanese.
There is an increasing trend in other countries to shift to shared parenting and joint custody. Enforcement of custody orders is also an issue in those countries that usually award sole or primary custody, as it is in Japan. The law in U. The practice of sharing child custody after a divorce is "alien" to Japanese and not found in Japanese culture or history, which may help to explain its absence from Japanese law. In Japan, when a marriage with children legally dissolves, full parental custody and authority is awarded to only one parent.
The real difference lies in the two cultures diverging conception of social parenthood. The American parent remains a legal parent at least in part because he or she remains a social parent, while the traditional Japanese view is the opposite. In Japan it is seen as preferable that children make a permanent break with the non-custodial parent because creating a legal "right" for parent would cause conflict damaging to the welfare of the child.
The typical 'deal' in Japan is that, upon divorce, the father pays nothing for the child's support, and he never sees his child. It is noted that the decision by family courts in Japan with regard to both visitation and child support are unenforceable. It permits the spouse usually the husband keep most of his assets, avoid payment of alimony and provide little or no child support, but the price he pays is the abandonment of any relationship with his children, while the other spouse is punished economically, but keeps her children.
The world is changing and interracial marriages are just a natural part of that change, get used to it!!! I know white girls who love Japanese guys because they also have a stoic charm to them I generally have found Japanese women to be cold, non-expressive and asexual. No hugging or kissing in public please, we're Japanese. Also no flirting, no romantic banter, nothing. Anyway, sure "men are after one thing", but hey, guess what? Women can be too! Who woulda thunk it, hey?
What really is the problem? It can't possibly be considered as a lie. Why would the women accuse the man of lying, unless, of course, she hates herself and has low self esteem. Maybe she doesn't respect that the man is at least making an effort for her which she clearly doesn't deserve if it comes to that.
Anyway, let's play devil's advocate and call BS on sweet talk. Well perhaps some people can't enjoy works of fiction for what they are either. I didn't see anybody upset, or fail to enjoy watching "the avengers" because the events portrayed in the film weren't real! Romance is no different and enjoyable too IF you have your head screwed on!
My ex-bf was like this, and then two months into the relationship, he realized that he was Japanese and reverted to being cold and distant. But I totally agree with you!! That's what J women are all about. And yet, most guys here are so head over heels about those superficiality in those women. She told me that her husband had enough of those 'fake' J women According to her, this is what her husband said: J women do all the nice things with smiles in front of him, but the minute they turned away, the smiles are gone and they go date another man That's what it's called flirting language.
When another J woman comes along, he'll just drop you off like a piece of rag. On the other hand J guy texts with only 2 or 3 words when you expect more, but the love is consistent. I would say the issue is a bit more complex than implied by a single "Divorce Rate" number.
That said, the number of divorces compared to the number of marriages, and the number of non-divorced couples who live separately are likely not included in that figure.
There is a lot of trial and error involved in the actual practice, and that doesn't even bring into account the academic training that I have put to use. Anyone can learn to be romantic, but like any art, you have to be willing to put in the time and effort to practice if you ever want to be good at it.
Most people have a loving partner and are happy at the level they are at, and more power to them. People like me, I have to work at it to keep a lady interested in me.
You can still have romantic liasons with Japanese women without engaging in humiliating nonsense. The only valid rule from that list is 6! Something is forgotten in all this. One stereotype DOES seem to hold true, though. Seems as though in many cases, the Japanese woman is older than the foreign guy. Perhaps the women have realized that they are reaching the age that they are "off market" for Japanese guys, so they have to resort to foreign men who don't care so much.
I've seen it myself on many occasions. It's quite rare in J on J relationships for the woman to be the older of the two. Looked over the list again. Nothing wrong with most of them - flowers, "i love you"s, letters, signs of affection - none of that really goes out of style.
My daughter sends little letters in hiragana to her friends all the time. Baffling to me and to my son who'd rather punch his friends or throw mud at them to show affection, but girls like stuff like that. And if there isn't much of that before you get married, it probably won't increase. I think you wrote a great explanation of Japanese thinking and practice re divorce and children, and it's good for foreigners to read that.
So that's the way it has been, but I'd submit to you that regardless of who is paying for what, children would like to see their mother or father sometimes.
Don't you think so? I don't think there's a Japanese child gene that makes people not want to see their father from time to time. Cabadaje, If you have to work at it to keep Japanese ladies interested in you when you are just dating, I'd hold off on give marriage advice. I, on the other hand, would point out how many people here have derided not working on their romance, and the subsequent consequences to their marriage. In all cases, I stand by my position: Romance is a delightful thing in a relationship, at whatever level the players chose to play.
Complacency inevitably leads to boredom, and boredom is a relationship killer. To assume the players do not know that they are playing a game is a fairly weak conclusion that can only be drawn by assuming that men are are being motivated solely by sexual desire and women are not intelligent enough to recognize it.
To deride others because they enjoy playing a game is fairly boorish behaviour. I agree with Elbuda Mexicano. Of course,what's written in this news article are not in general, Japanese women married to foreign guys are intimate only with their hubbies in the first few years of their marriage.
Personally, i know some American guys married to Japanese women who complain that their wife ignore them and so they start to play around I don't do any of these things but I reckon I'm a good boyfriend, I'm not a domineering bully or a shy, mummy's boy like most Japanese guys. I wonder how many of the blokes in this article have to do these things in order to just keep a girlfriend since they only came to Japan because they couldn't get one in their own countries Sounds like a lot of work.
Just order delivery health and sweet talk her into putting out the honban, then get on with your day. Cabadaje, I was baffled that you had to work at keeping women interested in you when you were single. I had the opposite problem. And that someone who isn't married but thinks they're knowledgeable about romance because they're having lots of romance, needs to know that it's a lot easier when you're not married.
I agree that those who are married still need to work on romance, but not being married and having some girlfriends doesn't qualify you. And like I said, I'm surprised you have to work so hard to keep women interested.
Esp if you're a foreigner in Japan. Just being a foreigner should make you interesting enough. Loki, It's a mistake to think that because you are married to a person of a nationality and have a great relationship, that those who don't are at fault.
Maybe you got a better catch. You can't judge other by your own relationship. Some women are just easier to get on with than others. Just like some men are easier to get on with and please than others.
Buying a woman as a slave through marriage, or paying her off to keep her interested in staying around isn't exactly moral to some of us either.
If some people were smart about going down that route, they'd find that routine prostitution is cheaper over the long term. Reading the comments on this article reassures the "bitter and lonely" vibe I get from a lot of commenters on this site. Funny because I bet quite a few of them have JP spouses lol. You act the way you act with the one you love, regardless of marriage.
Marriage imposes new responsibilities, to be sure, but if you use marriage as a reason to slack off the romance, the relationship is going to get boring incidentally, I am using the general "you", not you, personally. You are certainly entitled to your opinion on the matter. Myself, as I said, I do not consider marriage to be a disqualifier for romance, nor any particular advantage.
Just because someone chooses to claim that the game is over does not mean that any of the other players weren't playing just as well or better. Well, no matter what each one thinks, cheesy stuff is nice for some people, not everyone and that's ok.
Don't mock japanese girls, not only japanese girls can like those things. And for the guys that think 'those cheesy things' are too much, well some guys actually like to treat their girls like princesses, and some others don't.
As long as they feel fine and happy, I don't see the problem. Is anybody satisfied with Japanese women after married? I know we all think they are hot but do they have anything worth being with for many years?
I seriously have never seen any gaijins that are married to Japanese talk about how their marriage is positive. It seems everyone is taken to the cleaners and get no action. You end up getting moved to a separate bedroom, given an allowance and not allowed to spend your own money the way you want?
Probie Clearly you are not the Romantic type, but many romantic men can and do exist. Im sorry you are lacking in that deparment but I dont feel it gives you the right to judge and call anyone who does it fake. I personally use pet names, always leave on "love you" and compliment my love regularly, but I guess thats because Im not just in it for the sex. A Japanese who has read only a few of comments will comment: We have fewer skills for expression than others do. Most of us aren't given enough from our families or schools.
Although some boys and girls get such skills, the others remain poor. I think it's quite easy to get J girls. You should be able to feel the love without needing to be told it every day. You should be able to see it everyday in the things they do- actions are louder than words.
If you say "I love you" because the other person demands it rather than because you feel like saying it, the words mean less. Those are not ways to get a girl or keep one. They are wonderful ways to make her think you are a needy schmuck and get what she wants out of you until she finds someone with some confidence to dump you for.
An awful lot of mysogyny being posted here. I find there is nothing that radically different between men and women when it comes to relationships. Indeed, my own experience in Japan is that I often hugely underestimate the ages of many people here!
Their porcelain skin tends to be clear and smooth and remains so for longer. However, this skin type can also be extremely sensitive to the environment, particularly chemicals and strong skin products. For this reason, advertising skin beauty and care products is a big business in Asian countries. Japanese, Korean, and Chinese people tend to be more careful with products and treatments they use on their skin.
This, in turn, means that they are using more organic ingredients in their beauty products which helps women maintain undamaged, healthy skin even as they get older.
This is one definite similarity of the three nationalities, and can easily lead to cases of mistaken identity! However, it is important to remember that minorities in these countries do have different tones and features, as well as people who are mixed race. Firstly, it is important to say that body shape differs hugely between individuals.
Anyone can eat too much pizza and become overweight, or workout every day and look like the Hulk. You could say that body shape is a mish-mash of genes, diet, and lifestyle.
However, it is generally observed that people from Korea, China, and Japan tend to be of a similar short stature and slim build compared to people from other parts of the world.
The average height for men in Japan, for example, is The average height for Chinese and Korean men is Interestingly, however, this could be changing soon, particularly in China where fast food is becoming increasingly popular. It can also be observed that South Koreans have gradually become taller over the decades as the country has become more developed.
These three nationalities of people may look somewhat similar but if you look closely, you will notice some real differences in facial features. The Japanese face is generally longer and wider, while the Korean face has a more prominent jaw and higher cheekbones.
The Chinese face varies, but Han Chinese are said to have a rounder face. Koreans often have smaller eyes. But again, this is a generalization and can vary hugely! Just look at how they dress! Japanese people value harmony and uniformity, hence when they dress up, they aim to blend in with the majority. Plain, simple and subtle colors are the key to typical Japanese attire. Nothing should stand out too much. I have observed that wearing suits is very common in Japan.
Whether it be for a final presentation at school, a job internship, a job interview, or graduation, Japanese men usually wear suits. They also tend to wear solely white shirts and black ties. Blending in with the norm is expected. Contrary to the Japanese, most Koreans wear bright and more colorful attire. I remember my Korean friend saying during her culture presentation in school, that unlike in Japan, they can wear nice colorful dresses when they do their internships and especially during job interviews!
Also, Korean fashion clothes go with the trend while Japanese fashion clothes put more emphasis on small personal touches. As for the Chinese, from my own observations, it tends to be quite mixed, incorporating influences from Japanese fashion, western-style clothing, and south-east Asian trends.
Chinese young people are taking a lot of influence from Japanese high street fashion. There are also some extreme fashions such as ganguro that come and go. Of course, everyone is different and has their own personal style, so take this with a pinch of salt. A further point to note is that Japanese people often wear whitening makeup, and there is a bit preference for appearing lighter skinned than your natural skin colour. This is also becoming somewhat popular in China now, where makeup practices are often influenced by Japan.
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