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They're difficult to get into and they're maybe even more difficult to get out of. Unless you happen to believe in marriage and also happen to meet the Perfect Partner your first time through eventually you're going to have to do a break-up. A farewell to someone else's arms. Like making friends or influencing people, one might assume that the self-help gurus have figured this out for us. That they have, yet again, cracked the code on human emotion and can deliver us a way to end a relationship that is both simple and relatively painless for either party.
The bad news is that this doesn't really exist. The good news is that there are people like Chuck Hill, the department chair and professor of social psychology at Whittier College , who has dedicated his life's work to studying interpersonal relationships. If there's anyone who might have some advice on how best to navigate a break-up, it's Hill.
You can do this. It sounds obvious, but the first step in breaking up with someone is to determine if you should, well, break up with them. Relationships are complex and varied and it's counter-productive to say — barring some extreme circumstances when your immediate safety is concerned — that you should break up with someone if they do X, Y and Z. Instead, Charles Hill suggests, you should use major life changes as opportunities to assess your relationship. Whether intentionally or not, we naturally do this, says Hill — whether it's graduating from school, getting a new job or moving to a new city.
In fact, Hill argues, these sorts of "milestone events" are actually a pretty good time to break up. That's not to say you should use them as an excuse, but in terms of the logistics of breaking up — shared friends, proximity or forced interactions — they can help make things easier for both people involved.
Of course, you still need to tell the person that you wish to break up with them. This is, arguably, the hardest part about ending a relationship.
Finding the courage to face the person you may have once truly loved, and tell them that you do not love them anymore. The first thing to realize is that what you are about to do is a normal and regular thing. The second thing to realize is that, no matter how you say it or where you say it or when you say it, the other person is not going to take it well.
Your natural instinct, unless this person really hurt you, is to soften the blow. Maybe you offer friendship instead, or that you need some time to yourself to figure things out.
And maybe it's true! But more often than not, the best course of action is to just make a clean break. Time can heal all wounds, but the thing is you need to let time do it's thing. Keeping the option open will just keep rubbing your sore of a relationship raw — never to heal and always to hurt.
Just because you've vowed to break total contact doesn't mean you need to be cruel about it. How you leave it with this person is crucial to how they — and to some degree even you — handle the next few days and weeks post-separation.
What you shouldn't do, is just dump them and leave them to pick up the pieces. That's not to say you have to hold their hand through the breakup, nor should you feel personally responsible for their wellbeing going forward. But it's helpful to reassure the person that there are people out there that they can talk to.
That even though this relationship didn't work out, they still have so much in their life to lean back on. Remind them of that. Lastly, outside of an empty promise that things will get better, try and remind the person of the bigger picture.
If the relationship is new and you're both in agreement that it's not going to work out, then sure, it's probably okay.
Otherwise, a clean break is best. It won't, but it might feel like it. A wise friend once told me that a breakup is a good time to tend to the friendships you've probably been neglecting.
So do that, and it'll at least help distract you. You know there are worse things. Online dating may be the end of us all, but goddamn does it deliver on the dopamine rush of knowing someone finds you attractive.
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Keep posting and keep reading. There are some good points made here and can really help pull you through. Im days clean off hydrocodone after almost eight years of daily use. Your actions are truly amazing to me and I know your going to make it.
Today is the start of day 4. It certainly has been a journey so far. I would like to thank you Reid for all your help and support. It really does mean a lot to me. Thank you flats for the kind words also. The people on here are amazing, supportive, and inspirational. I am truly greatful. Last night was very nice. My wife came home from work and we talked about the situation for awhile then she made me some comfort food of chicken noodle soup.
I ate almost the whole large bowl. I couldn't believe how much I ate. She has been extraordinary in her support of this thing. It only serves to to strengthen my resolve. During dinner, we reviewed more material the doctor gave her about the birth of our first child. There is just so much info. I have always been so comfortable around kids from newborns to teenagers.
Probably cause I am a 35 yr old kid myself. We are so excited. It just sucks that my physical self right now is run down and a some of the mental part to. The mental part wants to be there way more than it os right now. It's hard to focus on one thing for to long.
It just sucks using so much of myself for myself in this special time in our life together. I have been on this roller coaster for a little over a year and decided for myself, her, and now the soon to be the love of our lives to get over this hurdle. I feel the hurdle was starting it, now just a hump in continuing and maintaining it. I have always been one to put others first in their time of need.
We should be able to share this together. I know it won't last long but it is hard for me still to think that I am in my situation and she in hers and I can't be percent supportive for her. Plus, she has to be supportive of me. Just some random thoughts that I was having last night when talking with her last night. Wishing everyone a happy and healthy day. I did it guys and gals.
I walked on the treadmill for about a mile. Started slow for the first half then increased to my usual pace for the last half mile. I am an unusually fast walker. I think it is part of my personality. Got some place to be then let's get there. I even did a cool down back to a slow pace at the end for a few more minutes.
I even made some lunch today as I was hungry. I think the hunger thing is for me is you have to start to eat and you will want to eat like regular again. I have eaten twice today. Which the previous 3 days was a chore. Just proud of this achievement.
Build that foundation my friend The new normal can be pretty cool if you construct it correctly.. Sounds like you are on your way! Hope you slept well.
That's great that you were able to eat so soon. I definitely was not able to yet. Here's to another day for us! Good morning everyone Hi RN thanks for checking in on me this morning. You truly have helped and inspired me to keep up. It might be premature to declare that my appetite is back, but ate dinner last night store bought homemade ravioli. That store has some great prepared foods.
That totaled 3 meals yesterday. Like always had some anxiety set in around 9pm. It seemed more than usual compared to the last few days. I went into the bed around I woke up shortly thereafter. Tossed and turned for about 2 or 3 hours.
Took some melatonin and a trazodone. Waited and waited and eventually fell back asleep. So in short, last night was the toughest night to sleep yet. I am not to worried about it though. I have always been a heavy sleeper but only 4 to 7 hours needed. When I was normal, bedtime came whenever and waking came after 5 or 6 hours later. Bedtime 10 equaled waking at 4. Just the way it was. Always up before the alarm clock.
It was weird even on days off I sleeping in was 6 or 7. While using though it was roughly the same but could fall asleep quicker and stay asleep longer. Sorry just trying to sort out some sleep issues. That has always stuck with me. Got things to do and experience. Can't do that while sleeping. Sorry for the rambling brain is a mile a minute. I do feel mentally tough still and physically a little worn. But plan to get on the treadmill again this morning. I would like to thank everyone for being their for me.
It is so endearing to have people you have never seen or might not ever see be so supportive. I see now why support from family, friends, and anywhere you can is so important on the road to freedom.
Thanks for being there everyone!! My worst sleep was day for sure. I think on night 6 I took benadryl, a muscle relaxer, and a handful of melatonin and slept like 10 hours without even dreaming! I'm waking up now wide awake but still very little motivation to be productive. My anxiety kicks in when I start thinking about everything that has fallen apart that I have to put back together. Worst time to be jobless too when you have 2 young kids that need a Christmas: Are you gonna reach out and go to meetings eventually?
They have already helped me. I guess the whole shittiness of the situation is probably over the past 5 months, I quit smoking, started working out and lost nearly 40 pounds. I'm not sure if the weight loss caused smaller fibromas to impinge on some nerve endings, causing my R flank pain… or what. So going from being a pretty active person to being in constant pain a little surreal. As for the cancer thing, I'm not really that worried about it.
The doctors said nothing, I didn't inquire: We'll see where it goes So I guess It' been 2 months since your surgery. How did it go? Since you and I both have a mass in similar places, tell me how it went Though you and I both have an increased risk of developing cancer, we don't have it.
Plus, now-a-days everything causes cancer. The mind is a very powerful tool. Don't be a hypochondriac. Fuck cancer, and if it has any friends, fuck them too. It's kind of corny at first glance, but if you've seen the movie act of valor, they talk about a poem written by Chief Tecumseh.
Somebody posted it at work. When I first saw it, I rolled my eyes. But seeing it everyday, I realized that it has a good life message. It starts out by saying, "So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. This is the only life you got. Enjoy the shit out of it! Go do cool things. Sounds awful, I hope it turns out better and that you don't have to live in fear all the time.
I have metastatic cancer and am constantly waiting for the next recurrence so I understand completely. I now just deal with it the best I can. I try not to think to much on that day, because the flash backs are just to much. It is two fifty in the morning and I cant sleep because that dreadful day is just going around in my head.
I know myself that if i dont get help i will go mad. I can go through that day ten times in one day. But i will consider going to see some one else, I know i need someone but it is not that easy. You definitely need someone you feel comfortable with and you will have to trust the person. I totally understand that it just didn't work out with the counselor you saw.
That is a very long time for you to feel such pain and saddness. I am relieved that you are willing to try again. You need to see someone that specializes in grief counseling--you are obviously not getting through the grief and you need help and direction with it. I know someone that was traumatized by an event somewhat similar to yours.
The shock and disbelief among other emotions was more than she could handle--and it was totally understandable.
It was just too overwhelming and she managed to get through it with a grief counselor. It wasn't easy, but she has her life back now. I'm glad you wrote to the board. I hope more people write to you. Perhaps all these things combined will help pull you through. I'm also very proud even though I don't know you that you are willing to seek out help. That alone gives me the feeling that you have the strength to get through this, you just need some guidance.
Last edited by Evie4; at I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My grandmother lost a child, she had just turned 2. She had encephalitis and eventually died from pneumonia. This happened in the s and although it was a long time ago, she still has a photo of her daughter in her bedroom. She said she never takes it down. I know its a bit different to losing a baby to SIDS but I think its good to keep your daughters' photos out. EoR Depression CrimsonClover Relationship Health 76 BB code is On.
I want my free account. Do you live in Canada? All times are GMT The time now is Just need some one to talk to I lost my little girl to SIDS on 14 june , i put her down for her afternoon hap just like i had done every day, but this time when i went back in to get her up she was dead.
Just need some one to talk to I would like to offer you a smile and a good firm handshake. Just need some one to talk to Hi, my heart goes out to you, especially at this time with the anniversary so close.
Just need some one to talk to Thank you for your kind words, i only hope that it does get better for me. Just need some one to talk to One step at a time. Just need some one to talk to I am so very very sorry for your loss. Just need some one to talk to hi Evie4 Yes this was a year ago, I tried a counsoler but I found it hard to talk about Faith.
Time can heal all wounds, but the thing is you need to let time do it's thing. Keeping the option open will just keep rubbing your sore of a. i don't need a perfect one i just need someone. who can make me feel that i'm the only one. You Need a Budget combines easy software with Four Simple Rules to help you Rule One. Give Every Dollar A Job. The secret is just to be intentional about.