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But please know this is not necessarily the end. She still likes being around you, which gives you a great chance to woo her again. And when you're wooing a woman who already chose you once, it really does not matter whether you have competitors or not.
You know that urge you have to just cut the ties and run? She has it, too. She believes you two have no future, and she's scared she might stay and get hurt, so she is very unlikely to tell you what would make her stay. It's time to experiment, and to stick with each experiment for a few weeks unless you get a strong negative reaction to it. She doesn't know what would change her mind, but if any of it works at all, she will notice and be grateful for your persistence and your creativity.
Be sure you don't send mixed messages. Don't threaten to take her off your benefits while you're trying to win her heart again. Instead, set a time frame for yourself and keep it to yourself. Can you give it a go for three months and cut her off then if it's unsuccessful?
I think it's great you two will go to counseling. This gives you a specific time to talk about your relationship. The rest of the time, don't talk about it. Live your relationship with joy and hope and kindness and strength, as if she's been given three months to live.
If she still wants to go then, you will know you gave it your best shot, and you'll probably learn a lot you can use in the future with her and, if worse comes to worst, with someone else. Patty Newbold April 13, Wow Patty your amazing! Should I be okay with my wife texting other guys and socializing with them at the bar she works at?
She's very pretty and so nice to everyone by default but I believe they want in her pants and I ruin our marriage when I confront her constantly. She promises no infidelity and I only have proof of flirting but I struggle to trust her. How canwe or I work this out? Flirting is part of the job in a bar. And staying faithful is more difficult while flirting. In fact, it's more difficult, flirting or not, in an environment where everyone else is drinking.
Fortunately, most male behavior that seems charming while we're drinking, too, is a lot less so to a sober woman. Now for the bad news: So you two have a problem, and it's not her patrons. You need a Third Alternative solution to this problem, a way to satisfy both your needs. And the best way to find one is together. First, you need to know what each of you wants and what each of you rejects. For example, she may well reject the dip in tips or the loss of job security from not flirting in a bar job.
But she may not need to work in a bar. She might be open to brainstorming other jobs that use her talents and reduce your worries. But first you will need to find out how important other aspects of the job are to her: You might also find a Third Alternative in her current job if you can come up with a way to reduce your distrust. Would you feel better if she flirted with you, too, by text? If you were free to drop by and have a drink at any time, as long as you don't scare off her big tippers?
Would you trust her more if your marriage were closer and more joy-filled when she's not at work? Could you rearrange your schedule to be more available, to take romantic weekends or Wednesdays together, to surprise her with help with her home responsibilities, to make more money to spend on her or your home, or to be up for more slow sex or massage?
There are many posts about Finding Third Alternatives on this blog. It takes a bit of effort, and it gets easier with practice, but it sure beats trying to pretend you're not worried the woman who vowed to forsake all others is not true to you. Patty Newbold April 24, 9: Hey Patty thanks so much for your response! She loves me so much that she refuses that and says she just wants to be free. We've been living together since she was 18 and I was 22 15 years. But she wants to take the kids too so what the heck?
Is there a positive way to see this? We've been struggling now for only 2 weeks! We love each very deeply but this wanting freedom is tough to beat, is there any options?
I can really empathize with your wife's expectation that finding happiness requires making a big change in where and how she lives. It's not likely she's right unless you've been hurting or browbeating her or the kids , but I sure do understand the urge. Again, I would suggest looking for a Third Alternative. Is she looking to find happiness? Or is she on a fool's mission to find someone who can make her happy? If it's the first, how about working out a plan for living separately without infidelity for a fixed period of time like a year, then reassessing your marriage to figure out what each of you needs to change to make it good for you.
The Third Alternative must satisfy both of you, so if you cannot stand a year without having sex with your wife, for example, it might include a few weekend getaways without the kids.
If she needs financial control, it might include a fixed "child support" payment from you each month. If you need some family time, it might include a week of vacation as a family or holidays together. If you want to keep your current home but cannot afford another, your Third Alternative might include renting the house out for a year or taking in a couple of paying male roommates who travel a lot for work. You might also check whether her need to find happiness could happen just as well without living separately, say with a change in responsibilities, so that she has a few days each week when she's not the custodial parent or where you pay someone in the neighborhood to cook your meals, freeing time daily for her to paint, carve, walk, or practice with a band.
The first step in finding a Third Alternative, which I left out earlier, is to let her know you truly want her to have what she's seeking, but you can't offer it in this particular form she's proposing. And if it turns out she expects to find happiness in the arms of someone she's already picked out, you might propose a Third Alternative in which the kids remain at home with you for a year before they meet or need to deal with this new person, and she can come see them frequently in their home while you go out for a while.
Most practically all relationships that begin while someone is married fail, and this would make it a lot easier for her to exit this one and rebuild a happier relationship with the only man she's ever known and the father of her children. Patty Newbold April 24, I found this site initially looking for ansers why and how women tests men. If you dont think this post belong here I'd appreciate if you sent me a private letter instead.
I just woke up being the man I always missed in myself because of a diagnosis that showed low testosterone levels in my body. I'm learning communicating with women in a totally different way I have never even imagined. Now, my dilemma is that I've met a women Miss P for about 4 weeks who left her ex boyfriend because she felt attracted to me.
At first I thought i was her rebound. So I confonted her and asked what her intentions was. She clearly stated she fell in love with me and because I was interested at first, but when she showed no interest, I just didnt care - that made her chase me. Now 4 weeks later, I've fell in love with her, and her 6 year old daughter is in the "package". I like them both alot. I could probably get other women if I wanted but it would feel wrong when it feels so right..
Miss P said she never met someone like me, that I was the one she would wanna met before she got pregnant, that her daughter fancy me, that she care and dont wanna end what we have. None of us have ever touched the question "Are we a couple" She has trust issues not against me, but against a relationship , and don't like drama, exactly my thinking.
She is very concerned to tell me when, for example her brother or cousin visit, so I shouldn't get jelous. Im not a jelous person, but she just made sure so I'd knew she was honest. Yesterday I texted her I think it's bad she said she'd phone me back after two hours when 6 hours passed. That turned her to say "This is the reason I can't stand a relationship, Lets end this now!
Deal with it or get a man who do anything you say". Today she drop a bomb about how everyone in this town gotten under her skin, that it strangles her and makes her wanna move away to start fresh. She already got an apartment kms away from here and she want to give her daughter the best she can from life but tearing her away from her friends here. I said I think its pretty irrational, but she says its something she decided and for the first time in her life she does something that SHE wants.
Now, in Sweden we can buy apartments and get a lower monthly cost. She wanna move to release some cash and study to a nurse. Has no job and wanna study. I know what a golddigger is, and she aint one. She provide for herself, and she's genuine. But irrational as far as I seen on ONE week. So, my question is; Could this be a major shittest she's pulling to see where I stand?
I told her I don't want her to move but I also exposed my feelings and said I could try and have a distance relationship. I never got emotional during this talk. I said that it's a good thing to have goals.
But maybe to have goals in a long run. Goals that aren't decided in one week. She pull out stuff like her ex-husband will live one week per month at the new place with their daughter and that she then will visit me, and I could come during other weekends to visit her and her daughter. Lastly she says she will change her last name to my last name?? She says she like me alot and explain how she feels this way and that we could try with a distance and see where it leads She look me in the eyes and says she like me I don't know if I love her yet.
Maybe I do because I'm so concerned that she stay. Maybe she crave those words; "I love you - don't leave". But, its been 4 weeks.
I'm in a crossroad now, where one part of me want to chase after her and start a distance relationship. The other, newfound alpha part, tell me to go and tell her she can forget about me to force her to chase me. Reasons why i think its a shittest is; that it's all irrational desicions, the fact she says her emotions are strong and that she'd rather have my last name. Maybe I'm a total idiot, but I dont know what road to choose. FreddyFromSweden June 13, 9: Doesn't sound like a test to me, Freddy.
It sounds like all the classic symptoms of a woman with a commitment phobia -- and with questionable parenting skills, if she's introduced her six-year-old to you within four weeks after meeting you.
Patty Newbold June 14, 5: Hi Patty My wife and I have been separated for 3 years we see each other virtually everyday she stays at her aunts and I stay at the family home.
One of my daugthers stays with me the other with my wife, they're now both over I love my wife we talk everyday and we occasionally have sex. I want my wife to move back I cant see my life with out her. However she's not sure and tells me I cant give her what she needs, she's completely closed down, but we still see each other everyday!
I do get worried a lot about whats going to happen in the future, I also think why cant we talk openly? When we first got together we both had a number of insecurities argued and fought a lot, we both realise that our upbrings wasn't exactly the most nurturing, but I think I have come out the other end a much more balanced person, with regards to my wife I now actually think she can do no wrong. Trying to be honest I think she has helped me become the person I am today, I like who I have become.
There has always been a fair amount of tension in our relationship, I admit I have been controlling at times wondering what she is up to and my wife has always been insecure around other women she always thinks I'm staring at them or lusting after them, I have to say I only have eyes for my wife and even to this day think she is incredible in every way. I really want my future to be with my wife and after 3 years, after I have been a bit tougher, she has agreed to go to some form of counselling.
I have said I miss holding hands, cuddling and want to be loved but do not feel loved by her, I'm not sure if she can, she is really distant and generally always places the blame on me if something goes wrong.
Even as I write this, I cannot think of her in a truly negative way and I do think she is beautiful and awesome. I'm finding it really difficult at the moment and would appreciate some advice. I'm more than happy to provide you with more detail if you want. Toby June 24, 1: It was some kind of commitment phobia, but 14 days passed and we still hang out, madly in love. I guess Im a good guy in her eyes, and yes, I am in heart. Her daughter seek more contact with me for everyday that pass and that, for me, is a good sign ;.
I hope love will last, and I hope her commitment phobia will fade in time, if she know she can trust me. I sincerely hope you are wrong, but I'm glad you said what you said because it made me thinking. FreddyFromSweden June 24, I hope that it goes well for both of you, Freddy, and that you manage not to take her fear of commitment as a personal rejection.
Patty Newbold June 25, 1: Toby, I know it must be awfully difficult to live apart from someone you love so much. I can certainly understand your frustration and your desire to either get back together or end your marriage. Those are quite normal. What might be getting in the way of communicating with your wife is your black or white thinking about it, which creates some inconsistencies in what you say.
You say she can do no wrong, even while you ask her to change what she's doing. You admit you have been controlling at times, but you say this as if it is in the past, even as you are giving her an ultimatum about rebuilding the marriage or ending it.
When we send out two conflicting messages at once, our spouse is likely to hear just one of them, often the one that confirms any insecurities. You say you only have eyes for your wife, yet somehow the combination of whatever you do now or have done in the past and whatever insecurities she still has leads her to fear you desire other women more than her.
It's common for a woman to fear at times that her husband desires other women more than her. But just in case you have not yet run across the research on it, one of the most relationship-damaging responses to her insecurity is defensiveness. If "but I only have eyes for you" comes out first, instead of empathy for her fears, it's likely to make communicating more difficult. I hope these come across not as criticisms but as helpful in seeing how your attempts to do the right thing may be backfiring and negatively affecting your ability to communicate with each other.
I believe you love her and want her back in your home. I am glad you two will get some help from a counselor. If you want to increase the chances it will build a new bridge between you, watch out for defensiveness i. Patty Newbold June 26, 2: Hi, I am so pleased that I wrote in, I certainly don't anything you've said as a criticism. I think the black and white thinking, controlling and obviously ultimatums, definitely continue and hinder my communicating.
Sometimes for me it takes someone to point out what could be going on. I'm going to really try and avoid inconsistencies and trying to debate my way back into love. Your response has made me do a lot of thinking and is very timely. I realise I'm very stuck with these issues and believe with some help I may be able to avoid these types of blunders. If you could recommend any reading around what you pointed out I would really appreciate it, I'm really keen to do anything to help myself and break any unhelpful cycles.
Toby June 28, 1: Oddly, I could not think of any marriage books that address this issue. So I tried a few online searches until I hit on the right search terms, and I found some excellent advice to project managers by someone named Geof Lory that you might find helpful: I like the insight in this article that absolutes those overreaching assertions that are almost always inconsistent with real-life actions and body language and demands the should, must, have to statements your wife likely perceives as controlling are twins and leave "no gray area for choice or the truly infinite possibilities.
Patty Newbold June 28, 1: My wife of 10 yrs and 19 yrs total wants to leave when our lease is up September 1, We have two boys together. She withdrew from the marriage 13 months ago. While I was going thru being injured for 4yrs at that point from and car accident. That left me getting 4 surgeries over 4 yrs and chronic pain and taking pain pills every 4 hrs just cover up the pain. Its been 5 and a half yrs now and I started getting better late last year landed a job in March and ended up bruising my Maniscus in my Knee so IM back out Injured.
But during the whole 13 months it seems like she kept adding more and more things on to why she withdrew. The main reason at first was for me raising my voice when I get upset with her and saying things she did not like. She also did things to provoke me to get upset and things I did not like but the difference between her and I is I admit when Im wrong she want admit fault in nothing or apologize for nothing.
I would just apologize when Im wrong and when Im right just to move on and have an happy house. But its getting closer to the date of her moving out and she is still admant about leaving without even trying to get help. She is very private she want go get help to save her life. I even said to her lets just go get help to help us learn how to deal with this for our kids so we can di it the right way since your going to leave anyway and she said no.
I cant get through to her and I constanly tell her we can work through this we just need the tools dont take our kids though a divorce and I stil get nothing. I dont know what else to do. When I got married I took my vows seriously and thought if we ever got to a bad place we would at least be able to work through it or at least try.
If you can give me any advice Im open to it. Vanshun July 25, When we are threatened and a failing marriage is a huge threat for most people , our brains are programmed to look around for evidence of the threat and for all other threats. Your wife has now had 13 months of focusing on threats, and a second accident keeping you from working was a big one to add. Raising your voice to get your point across was another. This may sound odd, but your distress because you can't get through to her and because she won't admit when she's wrong is another threat.
It's resentment, and it has an awful effect on marriages. So, here you are at the brink of a separation. You do not need your wife's participation to see and get value from a marriage therapist or a marriage education course. One that I think might be especially helpful for you is Dr. Steven Stosny's Marriage Boot Camp at www. He's doing one in person in Maryland in September. He also offers them by telephone throughout the year to those on his mailing list. And he has written a book on how to improve your marriage without talking about it.
He's an expert at dealing with resentment, frustration, and anger. You might also care to read some of my responses to the comments on http: Can you get a month-to-month extension on your lease and convince your wife to stick around until you can get some expert help?
If not, can you arrange a way to convince your children this is a temporary and normal month or two apart, while you learn some new approaches that might convince your wife to join you in therapy or marriage education? Please understand that I don't intend to imply that you are the only one responsible for the problems. That does not appear to be the case. But you are the only one still willing to look for solutions.
You are the one whose integrity depends on giving this your best shot for the sake of your children. And you are dealing with someone who has had at least 13 months of looking for, even poking around for, reasons to get out of this marriage, so you don't have time for trial-and-error learning. Patty Newbold July 25, My wife and I of 6 years are having a hard time.
Our whole marriage I have ignored her pleas for me to get help, I get angry easily and now know I have ptsd. Her father recently died so she left the state to help her mother settle some affairs. While she was gone I didn't respect her situation and we brought up divorce, I never meant it but now it's in her head and she says she's not sure if she wants to try or if there's any hope for us to stay together. I started therapy and am trying to become the man she wants and deserves but she won't even talk to me.
In the past her and I got threw what I thought would be the worst part of our marriage. She cheated on me but i looked to the future and thought about all of the good times we've had. I'm now sitting here with our two children hoping she'll change her mind or at least tell me it's over so I can stop feeling like my life has ended.
Sully August 1, 2: My wife said to me a few months ago what I'm finding is not so uncommon a phrase; "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". She's says that she has been really unhappy in our marriage, and that she has been having an affair for nearly the past year.
I asked her what it was that he was providing for her and it was really the way that he made her feel, that she felt special, and important. We have been together for more than a decade, and married for just under three years no kids. Our lives got busy with grad school and we just didn't make time for each other, and let our lives drift apart. I think we took each other for granted, and assumed we would always be there for each other. I didn't want to make too many demands on her time since she was so busy with school, and soon a lot of what we did was not together.
It sounds so obvious and silly writing this now, that this would be the result, but it was a gradual thing and we didn't really notice the change. As devastating as the affair was, the fact that she doesn't love me anymore, and will in all likelihood leave me for him has been far worse, and I know it is something I will grapple with for a long time.
We're still living together, and on friendly terms, some days it even feels like nothing has happened. She isn't seeing him though they are still in contact via email and text. I pushed her on this to really decide if she wants to work on it when I found out the communication still going on, and that's when she really pulled back and I think made up her mind.
We're going on a trip next month that we had previously planned, and paid for, but after that she wants to start the process of unwinding everything. I realize the damage I did by pushing her to decide and I feel like I probably destroyed any chance we had. So now I've been focusing on improving my life, applying to grad school, losing weight through better diet and exercise, going to the doctor, and just generally taking better care of myself.
I know that if I'm needy and push her to stay, she'll retreat and I'll lose her forever. She was the love of my life, and I never thought it would come to this. I'm going to rebuild my life and if she wants to be a part of it I will welcome her. I'm willing to work with her to split if that's what she needs to be happy, and I know we will both recover.
We have learned a lot about ourselves, each other, and what we would have done differently if we started over again. I hope we get to apply those lessons to our own relationship, but if not, I know what I would do better next time.
I've found so much support and comfort in your blog and the comments above in this really difficult time. Thanks so much for what you do. John C August 4, Been married for 9 years, husband using 8. He works pays the bills. He's always complaining, very critical. I'm not I'm a happy person. Any and all work need to be done on the house in the house, it's on me.
I'm not happy,not feeling appreciated want to pack up and leave,expressed it to my husband, his respond , he feel I want another man. Hi Patty, my wife and I married only last August. She had been married before for a couple years. A lot of emotions have taken place over the year leading up to our wedding.
She is my high school sweetheart. Getting back together with her after college and her other marriage meant that this was it for both of us. We wasted no time. Back together, moved in together, engaged all within a few months. Obviously that sent some shock waves through my family. Enough to make some question it, but we moved forward. Many times my wife would want to avoid some of my family functions because she constantly believes that she's being judged For her divorce and how fast we moved.
She's never felt "in" with my family. Fast forward to today. Both of my brother's wifes now have newborns. And she is incredibly upset about that. The first nephew resulted in my mom becoming baby crazy. She had put on the blinders you could say.
Now that the second nephew is on the way, my wife is thinking even more that now she will be ignored by especially my mom. To me this is childish. Of course my mom would be excited as would any new grandmother. But on top of that, we've had a long fued regarding my career. She has an excellent job with good pay and a great path.
I work at our family business. It's small and I don't make much but it's because the company took a hit over the last few years and we're still recovering.
We have a decent house in a great area. But she constantly blames me that I am the reason we cannot afford to have a child. She downright insults me and my family over both my job and her feeling of being ignored. Naturally, I get defensive. I try to reason with her, explain situations. This argument surfaces a few times a month. And has been since before we got married. She is constantly giving me ultimatums and I just cannot understand why she feels she must do that.
The latest event was tonight. We learned today that my brother is having that child. Instead of her being happy for them like I am, I am on the couch writing this and she threatens tomorrow to file for separation.
I like my job, and it will take more time before I can see a bigger chunk of money coming in, but she has had be job searching for months. I can't seem to figure out how to talk to her about all this. She has always taken everything so personally no matter what it is. She is a type a, pessimistic person. She always sees and expects negative things and then convinces her own mind until they are true.
She is a schedule driven type who freaks and get angry about plans changing. I am optimistic, type b, happy go lucky kind. Nothing extreme, I'm just flexible.
I hate myself for second guessing our marriage. But I need help on how to approach her. She's as stubborn as they come There's no compromise with her. She uses these ultimatums to get the results she wants. So do I give in, quit my job, and step back from my family some?
Or do I call her bluff, kick the can down the road and hope that raise comes sooner than later? Dmm August 5, 9: I am so glad you are getting help with your anger. There is one program I know of that is designed specifically for people who anger easily and their spouses.
There are in-person and telephone versions, but if your anger has ever turned to violence, you are eligible only for the in-person version, which is usually offered in Maryland, as it will be September 19 to 21, His website is http: If you sign up for his mailing list, you'll get notices of upcoming Boot Camps. Post-traumatic stress is one of the topics he covers during the weekend.
If you can convince your wife to try it, she'll learn really valuable techniques for dealing with angry people better, and you will learn one of the most successful approaches to managing anger and resentment.
Losing a parent is a big transition point and a common trigger for divorce and other big life changes. If you push your wife toward a decision, it won't likely be the decision you want. Perhaps you can convince your wife to give Dr. Stosny's life-changing course during this transition point, without any promise to return until she's seen the results of this and your therapy. It sounds like you feel she owes you because she cheated on you and you forgave her.
She probably does, but she may have felt she was evening the score in an out-of-balance marriage the only way she could at the time, in which case she would probably not feel she owes you anything now for your forgiveness then. Much better to woo her back than to press for fair treatment. Patty Newbold August 5, 7: Thank you so much for your kind words, John. I am so sorry for your pain. While I believe you are well-positioned to survive losing her, which is good, please watch that you don't accidentally give her the impression you no longer care whether she stays or goes.
Her chances of a successful long-term relationship with the other man are pitifully small. And it is great that you have this trip together, a chance to demonstrate how special and important she is to you and to create those Love 2. I am going to be holding you two in my thoughts. I hope you two find yourselves in love with each other and with life again soon. Renea, it's awful to walk on egg shells in your own home. It's also awful to know, as your husband surely does, that you're screwing it all up, not living up to your own standards, and can't stop.
So much easier to tell yourself it's just a competition and you're losing to another man. Do you have the strength and the concern for his future to talk to a professional about an intervention to get him into treatment so he can stop using and become the man you saw when you married him?
Forget the stuff about doing the work on the house. It's really counterproductive to make yourself miserable over something you need to take care of now that you'll still need to take care of if you two divorce. Chores are not what's important about marriage, as I learned when I thought I wanted out. Read the About the Author page if you're not familiar with that story. Patty Newbold August 5, 8: It's not at all uncommon for us to be drawn to someone who approaches life very differently.
If we each adopt each other's best strategies, our lives are so much richer for being married. If instead, we try to squelch each other's worst strategies, no one benefits. So you have two problems, the first being that your family makes your wife feel unwelcome, and she's quite sensitive to this.
The second is that your wife wants to have children, you want to build the family business instead of pursuing immediate payoffs from another job with less future, and you're blaming your family business for your delay, while the rest of your family is popping out babies.
I felt Marla squirt some kind of oil onto my back and begin to work it slowly into my skin. After she loosened up my shoulder muscles, she began to knead them and work all the kinks and knots out with her hands. I was impressed with the strength she had in her hands. I never would have guessed a petite five-foot-five girl was this strong! And I found myself wondering what else she could do with her hands? Once my upper back was sufficiently taken care of, she slid down and began working the muscle groups of my lower back.
Using her thumbs, she slid up and down the sides of my spinal column, working the tension out of my back with her attentive fingers. It's hard to concentrate with such a cute little ass like this in my face" We both laughed at her comment, and I definitely felt a certain part of my anatomy grow a little stiffer.
When Marla finally moved down to my gluteus maximus, I was amazed at how good it felt to have someone massage that part of my body. As her hands kneaded my butt muscles I could only wonder how much of my cock she was able to see. My mental debate was ended when she gently spread my legs away from each other, exposing everything to her sight, as she continued to massage my rear.
O well, she would have seen it when I rolled over anyway. Putting my doubts aside I tried to let go of everything and relax like she had suggested. At one point I was a little concerned by how close her fingers were getting to my rear opening. My kinky mind couldn't resist imagining her poking an exploratory finger inside my opening, but all she did was gently massage around my sphincter. I had tried several times to convince my girlfriend to try anal sex, but she always told me she wasn't in the mood.
Reluctantly, it seemed, Marla continued down the backs of my legs, thoroughly massaging my thigh and calf muscles. In my lifetime I had never received a foot massage, and found myself wondering if they would be part of the massage. Marla did not disappoint, in fact she spent what seemed like a very long time on each of them. The foot massage was so relaxing I almost fell asleep. I don't know how much time passed during all this, but eventually Marla moved back up to my shoulders and gave them another quick work over.
At the end of a good massage your body should fall asleep, and you seem to be well on your way. Well, little freshman, if you think that was good, then you're really going to like this part! Then she rubbed my temples and forehead with her thumbs, massaging away hours of brain numbing study time.
I thought I had died and gone to heaven! I must have drifted off to sleep, because I was woken up by a knock at the door. Thinking I was in my own dorm room I started to get up and answer it, but found I was somehow strapped to a table. Then it all came back to me. The massage with Marla in her room, and the table I was laying on. That still didn't explain why I couldn't get up. My musing was interrupted when Marla walked past me and opened the door. Two girls walked in and greeted Marla like they were old friends.
When they saw me on the massage table, they tried to stifle their giggles by putting a hand over their mouth's, which just made the situation more embarrassing for me. I'd like you to meet Emily and Kristina. They are both in my class and need someone to practice on tonight" Even though all three of them were drop dead gorgeous, the fact that I was naked and strapped down to a table motivated my verbal response. Emily strolled over to me and leaned down close to my ear. So you just relax and enjoy the sensations" "Here you go Emily, this should help him focus on just relaxing.
Put it on him" Kristina handed Emily a blindfold, and Emily carefully fitted it around my head. I suppose I should have protested at the loss of my sight, but I was quickly becoming turned on by these three little teases. Besides, not knowing which of these hotties was touching me was very erotic. A pair of hands softly touched my back, and I again found myself receiving a wonderful back massage.
Another pair began stroking my temples and forehead, draining any resistance out of me completely. After a few minutes like this, two things happened simultaneously.
A pair of soft lips began kissing mine, and part of the massage table was removed so that my dick was hanging down under the table. I was again surprised when another pair of hands began to gently stroke my cock. I must admit that I did feel a little guilty at first, but this was amazing! Here I was, with three hotties working over my entire body. The guys were never going to believe this.
At least this part of him likes what we're doing" Said Marla as she tugged firmly on my now fully engorged cock. Emily who turned out to be the one kissing me laughed at this and said. I had never met a girl who used her tongue this much during a kiss, but I was quickly learning to like it. Then Emily pulled away from my mouth and said "Open your mouth wider so I can kiss you deeper Caleb" Without a second thought, I opened my mouth rather widely to receive what I thought would be another great kiss.
Instead of a kiss, I felt her shove something round and metallic into my mouth and position it just behind my front teeth. I immediately tried to spit it out of my mouth, but it must have been connected to some kind of harness, which Emily quickly secured around my head. I immediately began to try and escape, but Marla must have done a good job of tying my wrists and ankles to the table because I couldn't budge.
The true weight of this situation suddenly hit me, and I realized just how vulnerable I had become. Someone pulled off my blindfold, and after my eyes adjusted, I saw all three of the girls standing in front of me with huge grins on their faces.
That doesn't sound fair, does it? You won't mind that will you Caleb? They all giggled and began to remove their clothes. They were all very excited, and couldn't help doing a little strip tease for me, their captive audience.
As the girls got naked, I was captivated by their large breasts. Each of them was well endowed, and I couldn't help but feel a little tingle in my groin. I was so focused on their tits that I almost missed a very important detail. Standing before me were three beautiful girls, with hot bodies, and My heart almost stopped when I realized what I was seeing. Each of the girls had a very large cock where their pussy should have been. Huge, meaty, hairless, girl-cocks! I knew I was in trouble.
They must have recognized the look in my eye, because they all started laughing again. Kristina was the first to speak. As I watched, Emily's soft nine inch member quickly grew into an angry colored eleven inch monster! There was no way I could fit that thing in my mouth. I silently prayed that this was all just a big prank they pulled on freshman each year.
Emily must have been horny, because there was nothing slow about the way she forced her cock into my mouth. As her cock began pushing at the back of my throat, I began to realize the purpose of the gag they had chosen for me. With my mouth held open by the metal ring, there was nothing I could do to keep Emily's long member from fucking my throat. She could rape my mouth as fast and as hard as she wanted to, and I just had to deal with it! While Emily was starting to fuck my throat, her friends must have been getting into position as well, since I soon felt a mouth begin sucking on my cock.
The fact that I was having my throat raped by a horny shemale had definitely softened my cock, but it quickly responded to the warm, wet mouth that began a gentle teasing on its tip. Meanwhile, two small hands were placed on the cheeks of my ass and began to grope my butt.
Even with all the other sensations, I was still surprised at how lovingly the hands caressed my ass. I played with my girlfriend's ass all the time, but I never expected someone to play with my ass like that. Her fingers worked their way to my rosebud and began to massage all around my hole.
My ass clenched involuntarily when she began to probe inside my butt-hole, but this only made her giggle. First, we need to clean you out" Clean me out? I wasn't sure what she was talking about until something was inserted inside my hole, and then inflated for a snug fit. They were going to give me an enema. As Emily continued forcing more of her cock down my throat, I felt a warm sensation in my ass as the water began to flow into my rectum. Now, just relax and let the water do its thing" There was no way I could object to this forced cleansing, not with a giant piece of girl-meat in my mouth.
Marla must have joined Kristina under the massage table, because I suddenly felt another mouth join the one on my cock. I cannot describe the feeling of two hot, wet, mouths on my cock and balls.
It almost made up for the fucking my throat was taking right now. This throat is all mine! I'm going to cum right down it in a minute! I tried to cry out as I came, but all I did was squeeze Emily's cock tighter with my throat as she fucked my face. She squealed at the extra stimulation and blasted her own load of hot salty cum into what felt like my stomach! You do not need tools as you should only hand tighten it. It will not leak if you use the rubber washer and teflon tape.
Second, insert a rubber washer into both ends of the hose. Then screw on the end of the hose with the long smooth part to the head, and screw the end of the hose with the nut to the bottom of the holder. You should only need to hand righten, but if you are wimpy you can use some pliers to turn it only a tiny bit after you hand tighten.
Also wrap a cloth around it so you don't scratch the finish with the pliers. If you did the above right, it will not leak, it will not fall out of the holder, and it will articulate up and down as much as needed.
I was going to give it 4 stars given there really is no excuse to not have a simple manual in the box. Just a 1 page sheet is all that is needed. But given the super low price, and good initial quality, I did not ding it for not having a manual.
I'll update the review if any problems develop after time and use. But for now I'm very impressed with this unit given the great price I paid for it. When I moved onto an apartment, I forgot to buy a shower head. So I went to Amazon, found this one, read the reviews..
Like the idea of the hose not being rigid like some are, or so long that if you drop it, it slams on the bottom of the tub. It added a lot more water pressure, and the setting all work great! It is lightweight, no problems or leaks with assembly. I recently moved in to an apartment and the shower head had absolutely no water pressure.
It was like taking a shower under a faucet that still doesn't have full power. Although I think any shower head would have improved it, this one is so nice!
I love the three settings it has. The big "rain" feature tickles a little when you first use it, but it is great and covers a lot of area. When you combine the rain with the stream feature, it is the perfect mixture. I really like to use that setting when shaving my legs, because I can easily rinse off my razor using the big stream. I will definitely be uninstalling this and bringing it to my next apartment!
I live in a apt and wanted something a little nicer so bought this one. I'm on day 4 with this shower head and I can't complain it works like a charm. It was super simple to install, and the different pressures are great! I bought this just for the connector and hose, wasn't really interested in the hand shower itself because I already have a hand shower I love https: This kit comes with the plastic chrome and grey adapter that attaches to the shower head pipe coming out of the wall, as well as a nice actual metal wrapped hose to connect to the handshower.
You don't need to use teflon tape on the other threaded connections, because the washers seal them. The hose is nice and includes a rubber ring in the part that attaches to the hand shower. This is nice because it keeps the hand shower from rotating out of position due to water pressure. The included showerhead itself is black plastic on the entire backside, with chrome on the facing. It has a pretty aggressive flow restrictor in the stem.
This doesn't matter to me because I am using the Grohe hand shower head which has a better angle. Given that I bought this just for the ability to connect my existing hand shower head, I'm very pleased.
Had I bought this for the shower head portion, I might feel differently. One person found this helpful.
I had heard facials were enjoyable, but I love my massages! What's a girl to do? I informed him I was just getting a facial and wouldn't need to change into a robe. That's the only good answer I can give you. Old House. And I love it because it works, because it moves me. When I get a good massage, I am a changed man. I get off the table and float I wouldn't want to be Thag — I like showers and modern dentistry. However, I do believe that. Because of the obvious benefits of massage therapy, I believe that massages should be All this is well and good, but your were GIVEN dozens of massages! .. I would love to see if this would work for me as it has for you.