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Posted by Ani Sep 19, Relationships. The moment I knew I had hurt her, my heart broke in two. It sucks to hurt people you love. I hurt more than her feelings: I hurt her pride and her sense of self.

What I did made her wonder all kinds of things about me, and herself: Why would I think of her that way? Was she really that way?

The details of the fuckup are not really important. Of course, guilt is terrible. But in the heat of the moment, guilt tells you something: We most often want resolution when we have negative feelings. We want to stop the hurt, we want to soothe the pain. Look at the guilt. Sit with the pain. Let it tell you where you went wrong, and what you can possibly do, at least right now, to start working on solving the conflict.

Yes, intentions matter… but not right away. The other person knows that. Your reflex is probably going to be to start trying to explain yourself. The other person misunderstood. How could they get it wrong? It should be okay, right? This reaction is a way for you to try to soothe your feelings of guilt see above.

The other person is hurting. What can I do? You know what you need to do: Feelings have this nifty thing that they do: I waited a good 48 hours before I contacted my friend again. I gave her time to process and to breathe, and for her pain to feel a little less sharp. And it took even more time for us to see each other. But when we did, it was with an open heart, without anger or resentment. The thing is, when you approach the other person for apologies, do it with compassion.

What does this mean? But blame is inconstant and fleeting. For some people, saying sorry is really difficult. It involves admitting your fault see above and expressing guilt and contrition. There will be no release, no catharsis. Sometimes even the most sincere apologies and promises to end the hurtful behaviour is not enough. But just as with everything else, the pain of losing a relationship will subside with time.

What you can do is learn from this moment and do your best not to hurt anyone else again in that way. The other person may never know it, but you owe it to them anyway. But mostly, you owe it to yourself: It might not mend this particular relationship, but it might help preserve others in the future. But having a compassionate approach to the other person and making a sincere apology that acknowledges your responsibility is the only way you can get out of this situation with some wisdom, and hopefully a mended relationship.

I write about sex, kink and relationships as a way to learn more about myself and, in the same stroke, help others figure out how to have better, more meaningful intimate relationships with others. Words to tell me? Send me an email. So a couple of weeks ago, I fucked up with a very close friend of mine. Like a real, big, giant fuckup that made her not want to talk to me for days.

But none of it helps when someone hurts. Give it time The best advice I have for you is: Approach with compassion The thing is, when you approach the other person for apologies, do it with compassion. Sometimes, we break things beyond repair. Thank me with a coffee! Ani I write about sex, kink and relationships as a way to learn more about myself and, in the same stroke, help others figure out how to have better, more meaningful intimate relationships with others.

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Wow thank you so much! Reading this has lifted such a huge weight off my shoulders, and i already feel my brain is cleaner. Thank you so much!! This was a huge help to read. Because I literally torture myself over some of my thoughts. I hate having them. I just obsess to make them stop and it makes it worse.

Gotta work on my self talk. This was really helpful! Imagine standing, laughing with the one man or woman you have falling in love with. Completely safe and having fun.

So vivid that you see the blood splatter against the wall. These thoughts rip me apart inside. I could even be at work, laughing with a co worker and boom, the thought of my house blowing up so I have no family or anywear to live.

These thoughts often come when we want them least. For example, when we talk about something or someone in our lives that are precious we tend to do things like knock on wood. I wish our minds did not work this way on planet Earth.. Could severe ptsd cause these types,of thoughts to come more often? On worse days, its louder. And when something horrible happens, even if i want to cry, I have the clawing feeling of horror with the thoughts opposite of how I feel.

It almost feels like my mind is being torn in half by who I am and anothet version of myself. Or is it because my years of abusive situations and near death experiences that have permanently warped my mind?

I cant talk to anyone about it either, when I tried it never went very far. So i have to constantly act like a ball of sunshine to cheer everyone around me up, even if I want to just disapear…. Even as a child. I have these horrible thoughts multiple times a day everyday. Examples of the horrible thoughts are: I am so scared. My question is, how do I stop paying attention to them?

How do I not care about them? Do I think about that horrible thing whatever it is? Or do I force myself to think about something else..? And how do you stop thinking about them? My friend posted a picture of her niece in in a little bathing suit and I thought it was cute. But the first think that I thought was cute was her bellybutton and for some reason that creeped me out. It calmed down a little over the past couple months but now it resurfaced especially after watching a Black Mirror episode about pedophelia.

You can never do something against your will. Yours is a common fear. It is a fear of a desire, NOT the desire itself. It is the same as hypochondria. The fear of cancer, for example, is not a cancer. I seriously thought I was going crazy. These thoughts scare me more then anything. I am going through the same situation, my mind is having a tornado of bad thoughts.. I only think something bad related with it.. Whenever I'm into something,they just pop up by own And i get worried.

There is a furniture in front of my house,The noise of it cutting,carving makes me to think scary related to my loved ones. Whenever I try to sleep ,thoughts like this pop up by their own.. I really want this things to get off my mind. Im going through the same thing. Im afraid that I might do it really. I was thinking of jumping out of our house instead of hurting them.

Im only 18 and a mental health facility is not an option for me and my family. I get the imaginations doing things to them and now the imaginations I get are just a normal feeling but Im afraid of really doing it.

I had just put the dishes on the counter and was about to fill the sinks. As I was just about to start reaching for the garbage disposal switch, I imagined vividly reaching down into the garbage disposal instead. This day I was relaxed to begin with. Your anxiety is simply telling you to be careful and it does so with strong images. We have dreams of all kinds, some good, some bad.

It is our imaginations spinning scenarios. As unpleasant as these anxiety-driven images are, they are necessary in that they help us prevent injuries and accidents. Goodness me, thank you so much for this. This began happening to me almost two years ago after I had a really scary trip. Since then I have had all kinds of thoughts appear in my mind many moments in a day, everything you mentioned here. It feels like being possessed.

However it has fueled me to seek truth and healing and this has helped to liberate me greatly. Nothing can overcome love. The more you work on real, genuine self-love which is nothing like being egocentric and conceited as that is fake and only happens to cover insecurity and self-hatred the more you liberate yourself and inevitably those around you by living in love.

We are an extension of the universe and hatred will continue to manifest in the world if any form of it exists in ourselves. To everyone out there experiencing this please know you are not bad for having bad thoughts. We are all connected but different in how we act on these thoughts.

People who want to cause suffering and do it with no remorse are the ones who are bad. You need to heal fear, anger, negativity and everything by expressing it in a healthy way, such as writing, talking to people you trust or music for example. Nothing can be abandoned in life, it can only be transformed.

The pain that exists exists because we hate ourselves. Negativity is erupting because much of humanity tries to get rid of it.

It is alive and is part of the yin-yang dance of opposites all around us that is life. It does not need to feel painful. It feels painful and expresses in an unhealthy way when we imprison it.

That is the real you. Love and freedom to all. Wow this was helpful. I am seeing a therapist because just 2 months ago I was told I have anxiety and that gave me anxiety about having anxiety!

Always strong , confident , now I felt like I was questioning. I quit drinking and trying to change my life style, my therapist believes this all could be factors to my anxiety also. Just want it to go away and go back to normal! If you look up ACT, you will see it is backed by a plethora of research and is based on principles of the science of behavior analysis. I myself have successfully used both of these texts.

Thoughts and feelings are just that, as the author of this blog has stated, which is consistent with ACT as well. I am one to have them every day because I stress about having them, which then Causes me to have anxiety attack. What are the best options before medication would you consider trying to help calming my thoughts.

Im glad i found this website. Thank you for this. I needed this, I keep getting thoughts about murdering my parents in particularly gruesome ways, and keep thinking of the pain and disappointment they would feel before going, and these thoughts have haunted me for days and nights, making me cry and even puke occasionally. I just want to know I would never act on them.

Hoping to hear from you, Camillo. Z A clinician's take on psychopathology, human nature, and life. I get bad thoughts. A wanted thought can be acted upon.

An unwanted thought cannot. This was the subject of my January 12, column posted below. I get bad thoughts Source: If you are normal, then the answer to the above questions is: Of course you do! Horrific thoughts Horrific thoughts come to all of us. Why do I have such crazy thoughts? A window into the minds of others There has been some excellent research to show that normal people get the same number of bad or horrific thoughts than people who are highly anxious or obsessive.

Posted on 26 Jan Leave a comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. JJ On Apr 30th at The irony here for those of us who are trying to focus amid competing activities is clear: We answer the phone, look up something on the internet, check our email, send an SMS, and each of these things tweaks the novelty- seeking, reward-seeking centres of the brain, causing a burst of endogenous opioids no wonder it feels so good!

It is the ultimate empty-caloried brain candy. Instead of reaping the big rewards that come from sustained, focused effort, we instead reap empty rewards from completing a thousand little sugar-coated tasks. Now more people have mobile phones than have toilets. This has created an implicit expectation that you should be able to reach someone when it is convenient for you, regardless of whether it is convenient for them.

Just having the opportunity to multitask is detrimental to cognitive performance. Glenn Wilson, former visiting professor of psychology at Gresham College, London, calls it info-mania.

His research found that being in a situation where you are trying to concentrate on a task, and an email is sitting unread in your inbox, can reduce your effective IQ by 10 points. And although people ascribe many benefits to marijuana, including enhanced creativity and reduced pain and stress, it is well documented that its chief ingredient, cannabinol, activates dedicated cannabinol receptors in the brain and interferes profoundly with memory and with our ability to concentrate on several things at once.

Russ Poldrack, a neuroscientist at Stanford, found that learning information while multitasking causes the new information to go to the wrong part of the brain. If students study and watch TV at the same time, for example, the information from their schoolwork goes into the striatum, a region specialised for storing new procedures and skills, not facts and ideas. Without the distraction of TV, the information goes into the hippocampus, where it is organised and categorised in a variety of ways, making it easier to retrieve.

Then there are the metabolic costs that I wrote about earlier. Asking the brain to shift attention from one activity to another causes the prefrontal cortex and striatum to burn up oxygenated glucose, the same fuel they need to stay on task. And the kind of rapid, continual shifting we do with multitasking causes the brain to burn through fuel so quickly that we feel exhausted and disoriented after even a short time.

This leads to compromises in both cognitive and physical performance. Among other things, repeated task switching leads to anxiety, which raises levels of the stress hormone cortisol in the brain, which in turn can lead to aggressive and impulsive behaviour.

To make matters worse, lots of multitasking requires decision-making: Do I answer this text message or ignore it? How do I respond to this? How do I file this email? It turns out that decision-making is also very hard on your neural resources and that little decisions appear to take up as much energy as big ones.

One of the first things we lose is impulse control. This rapidly spirals into a depleted state in which, after making lots of insignificant decisions, we can end up making truly bad decisions about something important. Why would anyone want to add to their daily weight of information processing by trying to multitask? In discussing information overload with Fortune leaders, top scientists, writers, students, and small business owners, email comes up again and again as a problem.

Workers in government, the arts, and industry report that the sheer volume of email they receive is overwhelming, taking a huge bite out of their day.

We feel obliged to answer our emails, but it seems impossible to do so and get anything else done. Before email, if you wanted to write to someone, you had to invest some effort in it. Compare this with paper letters. The sheer ease of sending emails has led to a change in manners, a tendency to be less polite about what we ask of others. Another example is virulent hatred as opposed to a nuanced opinion towards illegal immigrants, gays, Republicans, Democrats, blacks, whites, etc.

Can you remember how it felt when anger erupted and you wanted to strike out? How did you cope with it? Another fruitful area is to look at your feelings toward your children, if you have them. If you can put your finger on a moment when you felt the same way — and then see how you feel about that , how you judge yourself — it will give you some insight into your attitude toward hostility in general and your ability to accept it as a part of you. Sandy and I will be discussing how to cope with the eruption of hatred….

I look at it as a huge taboo. I like to say that hatred is the new anger, i. The problems arise when the hatred is acted out unconsciously. It can be very challenging to handle the mixed feelings of love and hatred with out loved ones. Personally, when I face such emotion, I do the following: I become aware of our feeling and feel thankful.

I acknowledge the feeling and say to myself that it is Ok and seek guidance from Infinite Intelligence. I take a deep breath, bring myself into present moment Next I write down immediately what I want-eg: When we feel good we think positively, get into solution mode and make responsible decisions in a collaborative way.

I agree that as we acknowledge our feelings of hatred towards our loved ones and finally understand that others might have gone through the same we do receive some emotional freedom from quilt in turn. That is, if we have been succesful to evade more socially profound errors such as acting upon those impulses.

I took a long time for me to understand that feelings of hatered is not to be shunned itself. Perhaps we should have tuning-our-anger-to-better-frequency-for-others-to-receive groups for anger managements stead, i. I find it to be difficult. As with any feeling, hatred can be strong and enticing. We can accept it for what it is, but the better choice is to not succumb to it. I find that I would rather vent with creative outlets like writing that risk a physical reaction.

Great blog…you speak with such reality. Anger is in all of us and yet we are taught as children that it is unacceptable. Managing it tho is a different matter. Knowing it allowed is the first step…its normal…learning how to let it out without dishonouring and imploding it and harming the other person is another matter…an art to be learned!

Trigger spots as I have been taught need to be recognised as feelings in the body first, being the observer of our own emotional process is key! Thanks for this excellent blog! It always amazes me how much even giving themselves permission to feel negative emotions changes things for clients. Negative emotions are really clues that something is going on inside that we need to look into.

AHHHhhh I'm having conflicted feelings about this. something between crying and laughing. I’m feeling awful because these dark jokes are so funny. I fucking knew I couldn't have been the only one who thought huges looked like Markiplier -gaby. In a lot of comment threads about makeup that I've read on feminist forums of one sort or another, most women seem to fall into one of two camps. Oct 06,  · those feelings and doubts are common and natural and finding someone to talk them over with is difficult,will the person judge and condemn you or will they genuinely listen and understand.